Follow these tips to help those in your care more happy and comfortable.
Guest post provided by Lauren Hill. See below for more information about this author.
For many people it is hard to watch their parents grow older and not be able to take care of themselves anymore.
Their whole lives, they have been the caregivers and the providers. Now that they are aging, many adult children have to step up to the plate and care for their parents.
If you are in this situation, you may not know where to begin.
You can put your parents in an assisted living center, you can take care of them at their own home, or you could have them live with you.
If you have chosen to have your elderly parent move in with you, the following eight tips will make it more enjoyable for everyone involved.
1. Give Them Space
Depending on the size of your home, you might have to move some things around a bit, but it is important that your elderly parent has some space to call their own.
Try your hardest to give them their own bedroom. If space permits, give them a spare bedroom to turn into a little sitting room with a phone, television, etc.
Decorate their bedroom and sitting room with their belongings, their pictures, and even their curtains and bedding.
2. Ask For Advice
When it comes to decisions that directly affect your parent, or that affect the entire household, let your parent know that they have a say in it.
Ask for their advice on the matter and seriously consider what they have to say.
Chances are that with their wisdom in years, they could have some great input.
3. Feed Them Well
When it comes to food, no two families are alike. Even if you were raised by the person, you do things differently now that you are on your own.
Keep this in mind as you buy and prepare food for your elderly parent.
Have them help you with the grocery list so that you purchase food that they will eat.
4. Listen To Them
Everyone wants to be listened to. This is also true for your elderly parent who has listened to your successes and heartbreaks for your whole life.
They are sometimes in a very delicate place near the end of their life and just want someone to listen to them.
Let them share with you their successes. Let them share their heartaches. Let them share their frustrations and complaints.
You don’t have to solve all their problems, or give them any great advice. Just be a listening ear and a sympathetic heart.
5. Take Them Out
Weather permitting, take your elderly parent out for a walk, a push in the wheelchair, or a drive. Let them decide where to go and what to do.
It doesn’t have to be an all day extravaganza, but you should really listen to what is in their heart and prioritize your time to help make their life a little more exciting.
6. Keep Them Alert
There are a few ways you can keep your elderly parent alert and thinking.
Playing a card game or a dice game is a fun way to get your parent thinking.
Reading to them will not only stimulate their imaginations, but will be entertaining for them as well.
7. Let Them Help
A parent is always a parent, no matter how old they are and how bad of shape they are in. They still have the desire to parent and care for others.
If your mother lives with you, ask her to do certain chores that are within her physical ability. Perhaps she could fold laundry or dust the living room.
If you’ve got your father staying in your home, he might enjoy tinkering around on the car with you or repairing a broken piece of furniture.
The key is not asking them to do something that is out of their physical ability, because that could frustrate them and make them feel inadequate.
8. Share Your Feelings
Whether you are mad and frustrated, or if you are overflowing with thankfulness, let your elderly parent know how you feel.
It is good with any relationship to keep communication open, including with elderly parents.
When all is said and done, be sure they know you love and appreciate them.
Even if you had a falling out, they are your parents, and you love them. Let them know it!
Elderly care at home can be exhausting and exhilarating all at the same time.
If you’ve got an elderly parent living in your home, do your best to follow these eight tips so that they can be as comfortable as possible in their new surroundings.
About the Author:
Lauren Hill is a contributing author for Lift Caregiving, a free service for caregivers offering resources for transportation and adult day centers as well as a full line of geriatric specialty items to help them live a more independent life.